How often do you ask others for their opinion before making even the smallest decisions? It feels harmless, but constantly seeking approval often has hidden costs.

Because what’s really going on underneath the surface, is that by seeking approval, you’re actually seeking safety. 

That means that when you’re always checking in with others, it’s not really about their opinion - it’s about avoiding disapproval or making the 'wrong' choice.

Somewhere along the way, you learned that your own judgment isn’t enough.
So you turn to others, trying to avoid blame, failure or rejection.

The hidden belief behind that may be:
"If I do it wrong, I won’t be loved, accepted, or safe."

Over time, this pattern weakens your self trust.
The more you rely on others, the harder it becomes to trust your own judgment.

Constantly checking in with others means you stop asking: 

“What do I actually want?”

It creates emotional dependence. That means that you give others power over what you do and how you feel about it, about whether you’re doing it "right" or "wrong."
And every time you ask for approval, you send yourself the message:

"I can’t trust myself."

But you can.
You're far more capable than you realize.
And the more you start trusting your own decisions, the freer you become.

Breaking out of that pattern starts with awareness.

The next time you’re about to ask for input, catch yourself in the moment. Pause and ask:

“Why am I asking?” Is it curiosity or fear of getting it wrong?

“Do I already know the answer?” 

Spoiler: You usually do.

By now, you probably know: Seeking approval isn’t the real issue, it’s the fear underneath. is.
The fear of being wrong. Being judged. Not being enough.

Releasing that fear is one of the 3 key elements inside what I call the People Pleasing Triangle, my signature framework that explains exactly why people-pleasing is so hard to break, and what it really takes to shift out of it for good.

Because when fear is still running the show, trying to just change your behaviour and trust yourself more often turns into a battle against yourself. It’s exhausting and not sustainable.  

The key is not to push harder, but to take the right first step.

I’m currently recording a private podcast series where I’ll break down exactly what the People Pleasing Triangle is and what three essential steps you need to take to break free from it. It gives you clarity and focus, so that you can break free in a way that feels aligned with who you truly are, instead of a constant battle against yourself. 

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