THE BLOG

How often do you ask others for their opinion before making even the smallest decisions? It feels harmless, but constantly seeking approval often has hidden costs.

Because what’s really going on unde...

For most of my life, I took pride in all of my ‘giving’. I used to give, give, give and often got praised for it. It made me believe that this was just me being myself, doing what I was ‘supposed to d...

Do you ever feel guilty after prioritizing yourself? 

Awesome. 

Because that’s not true guilt.
It's what growth feels like when you're shredding old conditioning.
I call it false guilt. 

False guil...

Last Tuesday, 6 PM, my phone rang.
It was my sister.
“Where are you right now?” she asked.
“Home. Why? Are you in Portugal?”
“I’m in Lisbon,” she said.
Her early morning flight the next day had just been ...

 This week something happened that reminded me of an old habit I’ve had for years.

That reflex to emotionally carry someone else’s discomfort.

Someone I care about was having a hard moment and even ...

If you've always considered yourself a kind and generous person - someone who goes out of their way to help, accommodate, and support others - this is for you.
Take a moment and ask yourself a tough q...

Last week I spent in the Netherlands for a training I gave and the yearly Sandford Retreats Reunion, which we organize for our retreat guests. 

Whenever I travel back, it’s easy for me to fall into a...

 In my journey releasing the behaviour of people pleasing, I’ve realized how subtle many of its signs can be. These behaviours often feel like second nature, something you do without even realizing it...